Love

I have not updated this blog for a long time as far as personal happenings in my life are concerned. But a lot of things has happened since I last updated and I actually intended to update sooner. So to cut the long story short, I went through a lot of drafts to get to this update and that is what caused the delay.

First let me say this, I am engaged and getting married! No, it is not a prank or a joke, I am dead serious about this. Before I even proposed I had already thought long and hard about what love is and what yardstick to go by when measuring it. I love my fiancee and there is nothing I will not do for her if it is within my power but love is many things to many people. So what is the yardstick for me when it comes down to it? Who do I compare myself to when I want to know if I am on the right track?

Anyone who is married or has been in a wedding ceremony before has at least basic knowledge of the wedding vows, "to have and to hold, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health till death do us part... etc" Though those vows are written by men, I believe God will hold you accountable to them should you undertake to fulfil them. But people have rarely brought up what the Apostle Paul wrote about marriage. The part that struck me the most is:

"Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her"
Ephesians 5:25

I believe Paul's point is this, taking my view from a husband to be's perspective. The yardstick of a husband's love for his wife is Jesus Christ. A husband should love his wife the way Christ loves the church and what did Christ do for the church? Christ died for the church. So far, I have done my best to make my fiancee feel loved and cared for only hoping that it will be enough or that I have done enough and I must say that Paul's point about a husband's love has given me pause.

Bottomline is this, will I be willing to die for my fiancee? OK, maybe that is a little morbid. Lol! The point is once I get married, my wife must take priority over me. I must consider her more important than me. I must love her more than I love myself and that is something I must do for the rest of my life! It is a huge mindset change to consider someone else's life more important than your own but according to Paul, that is what is expected of a husband because that is how much Christ loved the church.

All this talk begs the question. Am I there yet? Do I live up to Paul's standard? I don't know, I can say yes but talk is cheap. So I will let my actions speak for me. All I know is this, I love my fiancee much more than I have ever loved anything or anyone else in this world whether past or present and I will aspire to live up to Paul's standard of a husband's love. Dear, if you are reading this. I LOVE U!!!!! :-*